Updated: Jul 22, 2019
This is no joke, I got banned from Tinder! Goodness who gets banned from Tinder?!
So, here's how this went down. I was talking at work one day to my lovely coworker, we were discussing Seeking Submissive Sean when she gave me the idea to survey all my past matches to see what men really do feel is appropriate when it comes to online dating...BRILLIANT. At least this was brilliant until Tinder removed me for Spamming people (What the Heck Tinder). Sometimes I don't really think through all the repercussions of my "great" ideas (and in this case coworker's great ideas).
I may have messaged every match even if we have never actually messaged to ask them to fill out my survey (technically spamming, I guess). It was to reveal what is really going on in the minds of men on these things, not really to get a response for dating I guess. Turns out Tinder does not in fact want you to message every match (which I thought was the point in this thing), in fact, messaging them all at once is what they refer to as 'spam'. However, I thought it may connect me with these people somehow and it was for no gain or purpose other than to get to know my matches (and add material to my blog). So, Fuck You Tinder, your app sucks anyway, I have now joined Hinge (I couldn't possibly only have Bumble, which by the way allowed my Spam, thank you Bumble).
Let's be honest here, I really do want to know what men are thinking when online dating. My experience in the past year truly has been that they don't want anything serious whether they say they do or not. Sex is brought up instantly and almost as the only conversation if you let it go long enough. If you are lucky enough to get something to last more than a few dates, once they aren't interested they aren't mature enough to let you know and in my experience just disappear. I know there are people on these apps that don't do this but I haven't met one yet.
For the sake of full disclosure, I am not a dream girl for everyone (actually probably very few). I am a little dark, sarcastic, emotionally stunted from a tough upbringing and I have a hard time trusting people. I try to hide it but I imagine if this comes out in any way it's probably a red flag and they go running. BUT, I am fit and athletic, young looking and pretty, successful and driven and don't need anyone to take care of me (these are great traits, they have to partially make up for the others, right?)
Below are the questions and responses to my survey. Unfortunately, since Tinder had the majority of matches and they weren't able to respond, 7 responses is all I got. But for the sake of some entertainment and maybe a little understanding of how the opposite sex is using this app here you go.
OK so in the end this really didn't get me any closer to understanding men and their online dating habits or anything else really. This post didn't even have a murder scenario. Let's make one for consistency sake...one of the respondents reads this, then finds me and hits me with their car. THE END.
So that is how I got banned from Tinder, and all for some knowledge that I didn't really gain.